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Wife cannot orgasm, husband no longer aroused

Answered by: Dr Sashini Seeni

Last Updated: May 21, 2021 11:13 AM

Anonymous 2 months

Dear Doctor, my wife and I have been married for 16 years, and I am now 46, she is 44.

We have 2 children. The problem is, from the very first time we had sex (after marriage of course), my wife cannot achieve orgasm.

We have tried so hard for her to get orgasm, even tried using the fingers, but failed.

My wife wants to try to get another baby, but I can no longer get excited because my wife cannot climax. I feel I am useless at sex.

Is there any doctor who specialises in this sort of thing, especially female doctor? I do not thinks my wife will agree to meet if its a male doctor. Thanks.

Dr Sashini Seeni 2 months
General Practitioner

Greetings! Thank you for your questions.

The answer is a general description of the problem you’re having. Please click on this link (DoctorOnCall) to speak with us.

Based on the above information, we understand your concern about the problem you’re having. For your information, although it is highly likely that what your wife experienced is orgasmic dysfunction ( either cannot reach orgasm , or has trouble reaching orgasm when she is sexually excited) , do note that it can be caused by many things, such as:

  • Medicines
  • Hormonal deficiency (This is very common, especially after menopause)
  • Relationship issues
  • Sleep disorders
  • Medical problems, such as diabetes and hypertension
  • Lack of exercise
  • Smoking
  • Drinking

In order for us to provide you with an accurate choice of treatment and management, we need additional details to explore further into your current complaints. Therefore, you may click on this link (DoctorOnCall) to speak with our doctors and specialists online. We assure you that our conversations are kept in confidentiality unless additional consultation needed with other medical parties. Thank you.

Enjoy a beautiful moment with your loved one safely.

Last Updated: Fri May 21 2021 11:13:06 GMT+0800 (Malaysia Time)
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